Ripped Reminder November 30, 2016
If you continue to tell yourself the same story, it will continue to be true for you. BUT, WHEN you CHANGE your story, you can change your life…if that is what you want to do.
The classic example is a person who walks up to another in a bar and asks, “Can I buy you a drink?” To which the response is, “No thank you.” Whatever person “A” says to him/herself next is often the only, automatic, and most believed story that s/he hears, and it carries with it immeasurable meaning and impact for his/her future. Like, perhaps…
- “I’m not attractive” (self-directed and negative)
- “Maybe s/he is waiting for his/her spouse” (other-directed and neutral)
- “S/he seems like such a jerk anyway.” (other-directed and negative)
- “I’m way too good for him/her anyway.” (self-directed and protective/inflated – ultimately negative)
- “Why can’t I find anyone?” (victim oriented and negative)
- “I’m glad I tried because not trying would have been the ONLY failure! What, if anything, can I learn from this? NEXT!!!” (universally oriented and POSITIVE)
These are but a few of 100’s of examples of mini stories that people in this situation tell themselves. Obviously, there are 1000’s of other situations.
What stories are you telling yourself?
What internal dialogue are you having with yourself after an experience, communication, observation, thought and/or feeling?
If you were to tweak or overhall your stories, what would they sound like if they only massively empowered you?