A Conversation With Myself About Conversations With God

Hi. The following is an extract from my personal journal that I later thought might be intriguing for others to consider for themselves.    Should this likely charged topic compel you to respond, please do so with ideas that I and others could consider to help us understand this life we are in.  In no way do I claim that I’m “right” about anything below and I do NOT think that you or anyone else should think according to what I’ve written, it’s just where I’m at right now.  Know that I love you and that I know you love me too.  Thanks – Chris.

Some main points which I took away from the 1st of the 3 books entitled, Conversations with God, are the following:

  1. God created humans so that She could experience herself, because if she was all that existed, she could not – she needed something outside of herself to exist so she could essentially compare her own experience to something else and thus understand her own experience, and thus understand herself
  2. Love was all there was at first, but similar to the point above, when love was all there was, God could not really understand love, nor Her own experience, and thus nor herself.  As such, fear was made possible…the opposite of love.  From love and fear all other emotions are derived.

 

If these are somewhat accurate depictions of what I think I heard in the book, then isn’t it true that humans were created on this earth with the need for us to experience fear, and thus pain?  Is it true that God needs us to feel fear and pain in order accomplish the two points made above? And if that is true, would it also be plausible that we then CANNOT expect to avoid or easily dismiss fear and pain?  That they are purposefully difficult (for most of us) to deal with because in the dealing with fear and pain we learn the most about ourselves and thus God understands more about Herself? This might sound dismal at first, but it may also be freeing.

 

Because I’M SUPPOSED TO FEEL FEAR AND PAIN, (1) I can stop beating myself up for experiencing it (instead of thinking that I’m supposed to be able to avoid it or immediately manage it down, etc.); (2) accept the fact that I and others are going to do things that result in fear and pain – there is no other option – it is necessary and essentially a directive from God; (3) more so, that it is actually ESSENTIAL for I and others to do things that somehow result in me and others feelings of fear and pain; that it is perhaps God’s need of us so that She can experience herself, and understand herself and love?

 

SAID SOMEWHAT DIFFERENTLY

 

Each of us are pieces of God with divine souls, physical bodies, and an experience processor called the mind.  The divinity within each of us, our soul, is simply Love.  But, we forget that we are drops of God and divinely Love, and so we go about a life that can help us remember, and understand that we are points of God and at our soul center, Love.  We thus are here to experience ourselves, and part of that is to necessarily experience the opposite of Love – fear – b/c if Love is all we experienced, we would not be able to really know it.  Therefore, we must experience fear, and pain. There is no choice.  So for me, I need NOT judge myself for feeling fear or pain – which is usually what I’m down on myself for.  Feeling down about something that’s happened is one thing (e.g., someone getting mad at me), but me also getting sad about me getting sad that someone was mad at me is not something I think is worth ANYTHING because I MUST get sad at stuff – it is necessary for me to remember who I am.  My JOB is to use those feelings!  Might I then get ‘secondarily sad’ when I simply stay sad from the first event and not use it to help me remember who I really am? Yes; not might…I now do.  So when I now recognize this going forward, I can remind myself that (1) I’m SUPPOSED to have these initial sad (etc) feelings; (2) that there is something to learn from here to help me remember who I am; and (3) I have the choice to dig into it and do the learning, or not – but that not doing it delays me remembering who I really am, and/or results in learning less about who I really am.  ON THE OTHER HAND…one might say that the ‘secondary sadness’ too is an experience that can help me remember who I really am, and help God understand who She is…and this seems reasonable, for I would not be writing this piece right now had I not realized that I was experiencing this ‘secondary sadness.’ Writing this piece is hopefully the completion of the lesson/leaning I need from it though because I am learning from it, AND I think that I can more and more quickly go about my quest to remember who I am with this purported realization.

 

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So perhaps God put things like saber tooth tigers on the earth to help create fear in humans so that She could then experience the opposite of love.  AND perhaps God put fear of things into us to keep us alive because if we didn’t fear saber tooth tigers we would get killed by them which would then eliminate God’s opportunity to experience Herself (b/c we wouldn’t be around for Her to experience Herself through us b/c She couldn’t then experience Herself outside of Herself without us around).  Fear keeps us alive so that we are alive for God to experience Herself by experiencing things outside of Herself.

 

Then the question is, without saber tooth tigers around, what is meant by “alive”?  What is the purpose of fear now? What kind of “alive” does it help us stay now?  What are the saber tooth tigers now? Or are we simply old models that still retain a relatively useless reptilian brain?

 

If all we experienced were statistics in our heads – and essentially no emotions, leading to everyone thinking very similar things, would we all die, b/c we would all have mostly the same conclusions about things which would make the entire race susceptible to the same elements that could wipe us out? Does this suggest that we MUST continue to have a limbic system in order to create vast variances between peoples so that the total race survives? Additionally, if we removed the limbic system and thus reduced the inputs into our decision making, and if there were far fewer variances in decisions made thus creating a much smaller range of life experiences, would that be unacceptable for God because She then would not be able to experience Herself nearly as much?  So in order for Her to experience herself as much as She wants to, do we need vast variances in decisions and thus does She need a factor that creates said variances which is the limbic system? And then again translated to the idea that we are all rays of God, is all this needed for us as individuals to experience ourselves fully, and remember who we really are?  MUST we too have the limbic system in order to create large variances in decisions and thus life experiences?

One Law,

 

Chris

 

Crazy for 8s

Ripped Reminder Jan 17, 2017

“My life didn’t please me, so I created my life.” ― Coco Chanel

Chris’ Commentary

Life gets (is) crazy. Sometimes we perceive a/our situation as out of control which then leads us to feeling trapped, powerless and often fearful of the unknown, AND fearful of the idea that the situation will never change and we’ll be stuck forever.  Pay attention to what you do next.  From what I understand, most people (me included!) enter a “Crazy 8” where they cycle back-and-forth between sadness/bitterness/depression, and anger/rage/frustration (and all related feelings) – see the image below.  For example, you might experience this as alternating between self-pity and wanting to kick someone’s a$$.

Image result for crazy 8 symbol

Also know that when one enters the Crazy 8, they’ll typically start on one side or the other and then cycle back-and-forth; I start on the anger side of the 8.

So yes, you could try to avoid the Crazy 8 altogether forever and yes, we are trying to create a civilization on Mars too…or, you could learn how to recognize and exit it…in healthy ways.

  1. Unhealthy ways: berating someone for having “done something to you,” drugs or alcohol to dampen the feeling, gamble, anything else that provides you with temporary distraction.
  2. Healthy options:
    • Change your model of the world and/or your rules of the game
    • Get better at recognizing the triggers that make you feel out of control and find different “go to” solutions to either side of the 8 (e.g., finding love and lessons in the situation, etc., etc., etc.)
    • Stop thinking the situation is happening TO you and realize that (1) YOU are causing the situation and/or (2) YOU are causing your perception of being out of control and/or (3) life is happening FOR you and not TO you
    • Be your creative human self and write down at least 3 possible ideas to either regain the control you think you’ve lost, or to enjoy and profit from the situation as it is

Which side of the Crazy 8 do you enter?

The last time you got yourself out of a tailspin in a healthy way, what did you do? How did you do it? Learn from that experience for the next time you find yourself feeling powerless.

One Law,

 –          Chris

A Message in an Emotion

Ripped Reminder January 20, 2017

EVERY emotion has a message for you.  APPRECIATE the message.
“Negative” emotions are simply signals that YOU want something changed.

 Chris’ Commentary

Let’s say I’m in a meeting presenting a new project idea, I state an opinion, and someone else says, “Really, Chris?” with a very harsh look of disdain on his face, and I get angry at that response.  Why? Hmmm…let’s first return to our 6 core human needs: Certainty/ Security/ Safety; Variety; Significance; Love/Connection; Growth; Contribution.

In my case, I got angry because I was trying to rally support (connection) for a new project (variety, growth, contribution), and I was afraid that his words/actions would cause others to reject the idea which would mean I couldn’t then do the project (loss of variety, contribution, growth), and that “made” me feel trapped (unsafe) and unable to do something that would have taught me a lot (loss of growth) and helped thousands of people (loss of contribution).  And, if I’m being honest, not being about to do the project would mean that I would lose the chance to “shine” (loss of significance), and quite possibly get worried about retaining my job (certainty). And, I thought I had a real connection with that person and his words/actions (the harsh disdain) made me feel like the connection was lost.

 So what did I learn from getting angry from the response I got?

  • I don’t think I’m contributing enough to the world in general…and there are still plenty of other ways to do so even if the project gets squashed
  • I care too much about what others think of me as a source of significance…I’m significant by default so who cares
  • I care about retaining a connection with that person…and I can turn my emotions to curiosity to understand his skepticism
  • Perhaps I jump to conclusions way too quickly and that I interpreted his words/actions NOT as he meant them (maybe he just sucked on a really sour candy at the same time!!!)
  • I need a new job that has more variety and growth incorporated into the position/function [hypothetically speaking, my colleagues!!!]

 

Think of an event, thought, or experience that generated an emotion…ANY emotion, even “positive” ones.
What about YOU created that emotion from that event, thought, or experience?
What needs did you think were being filled or threatened from it?
What can you realize about yourself and what you want based on those needs?
What do you want to discover now that you’ve thought that through?

 

One Law,

Chris

Enter the Arena

Ripped Reminder January 25, 2017

THE MAN IN THE ARENA. Excerpt from the speech “Citizenship In A Republic” by Theodore Roosevelt, delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris, France on 23 April, 1910.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

 

Bruce Lee.

Don’t pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.

And of course the great, Rocky Balboa.

It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. It’s how much you can take and keep moving forward.

Chris’ Commentary

Enter the arena knowing that you will get beat down; WHEN it happens, get the F#%* back up and get beat down again…over, and over, and over again.  Exit the arena to recover if necessary…and then reenter the arena, and get beat down again with blood in your eyes, tears running down your arms, and pride pounding in your expanding heart.  And get back up…again.  Every day.  Every encounter.  Every decision. 

What are your arenas?  An addiction? Weight loss? Troubled relationship? An upcoming public speech? A new venture? Being a parent? Trying something you KNOW you are going to “fail” at? Dealing with a limiting belief that your kids will adopt too unless you break it?

Know your arenas; know you’ll fall; know that you’ll get back up…again.

One Law.

The Story You Tell Yourself

Ripped Reminder November 30, 2016

If you continue to tell yourself the same story, it will continue to be true for you.  BUT, WHEN you CHANGE your story, you can change your life…if that is what you want to do.

The classic example is a person who walks up to another in a bar and asks, “Can I buy you a drink?” To which the response is, “No thank you.” Whatever person “A” says to him/herself next is often the only, automatic, and most believed story that s/he hears, and it carries with it immeasurable meaning and impact for his/her future. Like, perhaps…

  • “I’m not attractive” (self-directed and negative)
  • “Maybe s/he is waiting for his/her spouse” (other-directed and neutral)
  • “S/he seems like such a jerk anyway.” (other-directed and negative)
  • “I’m way too good for him/her anyway.” (self-directed and protective/inflated – ultimately negative)
  • “Why can’t I find anyone?” (victim oriented and negative)
  • “I’m glad I tried because not trying would have been the ONLY failure! What, if anything, can I learn from this? NEXT!!!” (universally oriented and POSITIVE)

 

These are but a few of 100’s of examples of mini stories that people in this situation tell themselves. Obviously, there are 1000’s of other situations.

What stories are you telling yourself?

What internal dialogue are you having with yourself after an experience, communication, observation, thought and/or feeling?

If you were to tweak or overhall your stories, what would they sound like if they only massively empowered you?

 

One Law.