Shadow Company and All Things Big and Small

You are all things, including all that you oppress.

Ripped Reminder June 2, 2017

 

Most of us spend immeasurable time working on figuring out what we think is good and/or bad about ourselves and others, and then evaluating our experiences and observations to determine if they match our criteria for what we’ve deemed good or bad. And then, in order to maintain a specific identity, we tirelessly strive to do just that – bolster those aspects of ourselves that we think we should be, and rid ourselves of, or not be, those things we think we shouldn’t be. Those that we push away in an attempt to protect our ego, identity, and self-image, fall into what some psychologists refer as, “The Shadow.”

Well, as an “n of Chris,” I offer you this proposed reality: you, I, and everyone else…ARE ALL THINGS…AND…that’s cool.  For example, if I’m trying to be objective and “real,” I am…

  • Nice and Mean
  • Rich and Poor
  • Intelligent and a Dumb Ass
  • Thoughtful and Thoughtless
  • Strong and Weak
  • Giving and Selfish
  • Patient and Impatient
  • Calm and Hectic
  • Male and Female
  • Present and Distant
  • Love and Fear
  • Accepting and Rejecting
  • Listening and Ignoring
  • Private and Public
  • Hard Working and Lazy
  • Hot and Cold
  • Open and Closed
  • Knowledgeable and Ignorant
  • Righteous and Wrong
  • Developing and Stagnant
  • One who Tries Hard and one who Gives up

You get the idea and the list goes on, and on.  I am the Yin and the Yang, the Light and the Darkness, the Truth and the Lie. These are all a part of “Me.”

 

This proposed realization offers me some relief in that no matter what I or anyone else thinks of me or who I am, I am, again, unavoidably all things, and again, so is everyone else…including you.  And that oppressing my awareness and acceptance of anything that I am (any aspect of me) is unproductive if not destructive, ultimately limits the love and help I can offer myself and others, and is, well, just silly because those aspects that I try to oppress will get expressed no matter what anyway and if I remain unaware of and try to reject them, I’ll have much less or no control over how I express them when they do come out. I am all things I think I want to be AND all things I think I don’t want to be. But who or what told me what I should and shouldn’t be?

One more point, instead of thinking of any particular aspect or trait as positive/good or negative/bad, think of them as “just is” – perhaps neutral – and refocus your limited time, as well as your attention on finding beneficial ways in which to express all of your traits because again, they ALL will be expressed with or without your awareness and guidance.

 

So if you/we all are all things…then who are YOU? My guess is that the “you” that you and anyone else thinks you are is based on our experiences with how often, loudly and long each aspect of you is expressed. But that’s just an initial idea.

So I ask you…

  • What aspects of you do you try to ignore, beat down, or get rid of? (Keep in the Shadow)
  • What aspects of others do you take issue with? They are aspects of you too; perhaps in your Shadow and aspects of you that you’ve not wanted to acknowledge?
  • What is the first aspect/trait of yourself that you try hard to keep in the Shadow, but are now willing to bring into the light of Love, and acknowledge and accept (and perhaps learn from), even if you continue to choose not to express it?

 

One Law,

Chris